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This programme contains
strong language,
scenes of sexual nature and nudity

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I'm nervous. I'm going to take it
one step at a time.

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In a world saturated with sex...

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I'm absolutely petrified.

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...more young adults than ever
are living without it.

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The thought of having
sex with someone...

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...scares me.

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It gives me the ick.
I'm missing out.

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Terrified. Nerve-racking.
Gut-wrenching. Embarrassing.

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All I think about is
what I'm going to get wrong.

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Can you point to the outer labia?

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Nope.

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Now... Oh, my God!

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...12 virgins are getting
a crash course in intimacy.

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Social media, porn, dating apps -

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there are so many negative messages
and we can help them blossom.

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Use it by stimulating the area.

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They'll be guided by experts...

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You see yourself as? Repulsive.

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...to explore all
aspects of intimacy...

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...and maybe even have sex
with a trained therapist...

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Do you want to put a condom on?

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...or each other.

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Get a room, guys!

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I really do need to change my life.

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Who will be ready...

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Desperate times call
for desperate measures.

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...to go all the way?

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MOANING

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CHEERING

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Over the last few days
on Virgin Island,

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the group were challenged to
bare all in the nudity phase...

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This is my body.

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...which led to
breakthroughs for Ed...

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Will you touch my scars
while I touch yours? Yes.

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I feel like I can be vulnerable
as well and, like, I'm not alone.

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...and Tegan.

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Look at my pussy. Mm-hm.

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It's a very nice pussy.

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Mm, that's nice.

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Oh. I'm buzzing!

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It was the first time I had
my fingers inside another woman.

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Bertie also reached
an important milestone.

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Good. That was my first kiss.

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You did great.

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We're making very good progress

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and I am feeling
absolutely incredible.

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Now, halfway through the course,

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the group are about to
enter a whole new realm.

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The truth is that many people have

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a lot of kinky fantasies and
desires, and it's really

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important to give people permission

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to explore those parts
of themselves.

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And we know just the
person who can help

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the group unlock their kink
in a very playful way.

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Is that for me?

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LAUGHTER

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Brilliant. Another letter.
Another day in paradise.

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It's the fifth phase of the
course and time for some fun.

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"It's time to explore.

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"The next phase of
the course is Play Time."

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Oh...

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HE SIGHS

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I imagine they don't mean an Xbox.

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What do you reckon
we're gonna be playing?

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Er... Oh, noughts and crosses?
Oh, I'd love that.

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This is gonna be fun, I think.

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For me, anyway.

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Not so sure how some of
the others are gonna take it.

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Some will be more nervous
than others, I think, but, yeah...

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I'm excited.

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Well, I'm sure the cuffs are
coming out today, so...

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Oh, mate!

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Bertie, how are you feeling
about this phase?

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God knows what's going to happen.

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Mm-hm. After what I've
done in the last phase,

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there's no going back, so, yeah.

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It's Play Time.

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If there's a ball pit,
that'd be great.

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LAUGHTER

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With vulvas and penises.

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LAUGHTER

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In today's workshop...

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Morning, guys.

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Hello! Hi, y'all!

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...the experts want to encourage
the group to find pleasure in play.

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Some people might think,

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"Oh, why are you bringing in
kinks with a bunch of virgins?"

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but, ultimately,

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they need to have the full menu of
options because maybe they're not

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having sex because they
haven't found the sex

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that really turns them on.

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Sex is this place
that adults go to play

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and this phase is all
about inviting you to play.

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We have a special
guest for you today,

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who is going to help you
explore different ways

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that you might want to play.

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We want to welcome Shelby.

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Ooh...

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Sorry.

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I didn't say anything.

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You're not the only one.

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Hello, everyone.

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Hey. Hello.

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I am a BDSM and kink expert
from San Francisco, California.

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Some of you are probably thinking
this might be a little advanced,

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but it's a game of
leading and following,

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and I'm betting that
most of you struggle

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when it comes to leading and
following sexual encounters,

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and so that's why we're going
to explore that today.

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Sex makes everyone feel
really vulnerable

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and so what I want for the
virgins is to understand

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that what turns them on is
good and should be normalised.

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Education around BDSM is grounded
in consent and boundaries,

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and I want them to have a safe
and meaningful experience.

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BDSM is an acronym.

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It means bondage, dominance,
submission and masochism.

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A way to think about BDSM
and kink is adults playing

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a very sexy game of pretend.

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And what better way
for the games to begin

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than a lesson in submission?

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Submissives want
undivided attention.

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They know deep down that they
want someone to take the reins,

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and this is what we're
going to explore today

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for our first adventure.

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Is anyone curious to
come up here and try?

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LAUGHTER

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Ohhh!

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Ooh, I don't know, I don't know.
What do you think?

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They both raised their
hand at the same time!

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Take both of 'em!

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LAUGHTER

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That sounds great.
Both of you, come here.

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I hope you're both good at sharing.

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I fantasise being more
in a submissive role,

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probably from me not
knowing what I'm doing.

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I'd rather have a girl
taking the dominant role.

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I've always been curious
about what it would be like

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to be in that situation.

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You know why you're both up
here at the same time?

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Why?

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I don't need you to talk. OK. Sorry.

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It's because it would take
both of you to satisfy me.

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Do you think you have what it takes?

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I think so. Then get on your knees.

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Adequate.

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I think we have some work
to do before you're ready.

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Look how bad they are.

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You nailed it.

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Can I give you a hug? Yeah.

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Good job.

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Thank you for trusting me.

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I need a cold shower after that one.

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As the tools of her
trade are revealed...

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SHE GASPS

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...Mistress Shelby is happy
to help the group experiment.

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How long before you ask me to bark?

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Do you want to bark for me?

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HE BARKS

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Good boy.

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Bondage can make people
feel really safe.

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Think of getting a really firm hug.

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That lowers our blood pressure

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when we have that
compression in our body.

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It can make us feel calm
and secure and held.

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Nice. Very good.

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Can you make it back to your
seat with the bondage on?

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Good job.

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All right.

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So, now, we're going
to get into impact play.

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OK.

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CHATTER AND LAUGHTER

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As the group relaxes
and becomes more playful,

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some begin to explore
their own fantasies...

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Climb up here and get
on all fours, please.

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...as 22-year-old theatre usher
Millie takes to the stage.

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My fantasy would be...

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SHE GIGGLES

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...people dominating
the other person,

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and I'd be the one
that's being dominated.

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That makes me feel a bit...
fuzzy and warm inside.

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I'm like, "You know what?
Maybe I'd like that."

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This is a paddle. See, Millie?

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LAUGHTER

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And when it comes to spanking,

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for some, it's not just
a physical sensation.

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What happens in the brain is we get
a lot of cortisol and opiates,

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and basically we get a
lot of fun brain drugs.

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It heightens our pleasure.

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Good girl, Millie.

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Taking it like a champ.

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How did that feel?

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Mm... Yeah.

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Good job, Millie!

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CHEERING

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Are you able to sit down?

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LAUGHTER

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Thank you, Millie.

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No, thank YOU.

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It's my pleasure, truly.

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Millie, was that the first time
you've ever been spanked?

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Like THAT, yeah.

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LAUGHTER

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I'm on cloud nine right now.
Like, I really enjoyed it.

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I think it was something
that I've really wanted to do

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for a while and I knew I would like.

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That was a lot, but Jesus Christ.

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Privately, it's something I can
certainly imagine myself doing.

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Erm...

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In front of everybody else...

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...it's a bit much, but we're
breaking down boundaries, I guess.

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I'm in love, guys.

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With Shelby? Yeah, fair.
She's fantastic.

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It does feel like my thing
is being more submissive.

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If we were given the chance to
explore this in a one-to-one,

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I would absolutely go for it.

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But not everyone is feeling
the Shelby effect.

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How did you find it, Bertie? Erm...

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I mean, it's not exactly
my cup of tea, but, erm...

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...I've got nothing
against people that do.

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I just didn't participate
because it's not my thing.

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Fair. I mean, I've never had sex,
that's why I'm here,

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but I'm probably going to
be as vanilla as they come.

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I've never really been that
adventurous in other things.

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I don't think I'd be particularly
kinky in the bedroom at all,

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so, at this point in time,
and possibly forever,

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these kinds of activities
are not for me.

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Do you want me to spank your bum?

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Yes, please.

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It's the afternoon on Virgin Island.

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Roll over and get on all fours.

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The Play Time workshop is
already having a big impact

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on some of the group...

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Mm... That was a good one!
That was a good one!

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Hello, everyone. Hello!

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...and Shelby is hoping
to get everyone involved

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in some extracurricular activity.

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I have a box of goodies
for you all to enjoy.

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Yay! Yes!

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You can either explore on
your own or with a partner.

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Have as much fun as
you possibly can today.

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Thank you. Bye. Thanks, Shelby. Bye.

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Immediately getting in there.

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Oh, my God. Whoa. Ha-ha!

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This is just Fifty Shades of Grey
right here. Oh, sweeties!

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Edible underwear. Is it?

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Is it? Whoa.

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It could be someone's
laundry they just found!

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LAUGHTER

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LAUGHTER

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Hello!

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Dinner's ready!

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Is it yummy? They're really good.

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As the group continues to play...

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Come with me!

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LAUGHTER

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...it's clear some are embracing
the theme more than others.

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Are you having fun?

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I am. Good. Sit.

260
00:12:31,480 --> 00:12:32,800
Ooooh!

261
00:12:35,400 --> 00:12:36,640
Do you want to kneel for me?

262
00:12:40,600 --> 00:12:41,800
OK, we'll try that again later.

263
00:12:41,840 --> 00:12:43,280
You're getting too excited now.

264
00:12:43,320 --> 00:12:44,880
LAUGHTER

265
00:12:44,920 --> 00:12:47,240
Will's excitement for
the Play Time Phase

266
00:12:47,280 --> 00:12:49,680
has caught the attention
of the experts.

267
00:12:49,720 --> 00:12:53,280
Will came up for a little
bondage today, which was great,

268
00:12:53,320 --> 00:12:54,840
and he liked being a puppy.

269
00:12:54,880 --> 00:12:57,680
That was such a fun
surprise when he barked.

270
00:12:57,720 --> 00:12:59,000
LAUGHTER

271
00:12:59,040 --> 00:13:00,640
I was like, "Yes!"

272
00:13:00,680 --> 00:13:02,560
I had a few sessions with Will,

273
00:13:02,600 --> 00:13:06,680
and it seems like he's
starting to hold his arousal

274
00:13:06,720 --> 00:13:10,800
and get really excited without
accidentally ejaculating,

275
00:13:10,840 --> 00:13:14,640
and now he's been in a
place of, "OK, but what next?"

276
00:13:15,800 --> 00:13:17,560
So far at the retreat...

277
00:13:17,600 --> 00:13:20,120
Whoa! That's fast for a first date.

278
00:13:20,160 --> 00:13:23,320
...the experts have been
encouraging Will to take his time...

279
00:13:23,360 --> 00:13:25,080
Let yourself actually check.

280
00:13:25,120 --> 00:13:26,400
What do you want to do?

281
00:13:26,440 --> 00:13:27,720
And slow it down.

282
00:13:27,760 --> 00:13:29,000
We're slowing it down.

283
00:13:29,040 --> 00:13:30,120
...and Aisha...

284
00:13:30,160 --> 00:13:31,360
Taking a breath.

285
00:13:31,400 --> 00:13:33,640
...has used basic touch exercises...

286
00:13:33,680 --> 00:13:35,640
Shit, please don't come,
please don't come.

287
00:13:35,680 --> 00:13:38,280
...to assess his
premature ejaculation...

288
00:13:38,320 --> 00:13:41,040
I think this is what I needed.

289
00:13:41,080 --> 00:13:44,720
...but now, she wants to take
things to the next level.

290
00:13:44,760 --> 00:13:46,400
Hello! Hi.

291
00:13:46,440 --> 00:13:49,600
My greatest fear if things
carry on the way they are is

292
00:13:49,640 --> 00:13:52,480
just never finding anyone,
never finding love,

293
00:13:52,520 --> 00:13:54,680
never getting to have any,
like, sexual experiences,

294
00:13:54,720 --> 00:13:56,520
no romantic experiences,
none of that.

295
00:13:56,560 --> 00:13:58,040
That'd be sad, yeah.

296
00:13:59,680 --> 00:14:06,440
What I would recommend is getting
undressed and direct, skin-on-skin

297
00:14:06,480 --> 00:14:11,120
genital touch, and we track arousal
and you practise regulating

298
00:14:11,160 --> 00:14:14,920
your nervous system without
experiencing premature ejaculation.

299
00:14:14,960 --> 00:14:16,200
Yes. Yes. Thank you.

300
00:14:16,240 --> 00:14:19,360
OK, so when you're ready.

301
00:14:19,400 --> 00:14:21,480
Thank you.
Inviting you to start undressing.

302
00:14:24,840 --> 00:14:27,640
What we want to do is train Will

303
00:14:27,680 --> 00:14:31,440
to move as close to
orgasm as possible

304
00:14:31,480 --> 00:14:33,360
without coming.

305
00:14:33,400 --> 00:14:37,480
If he can do that, then he can
finally overcome his fear

306
00:14:37,520 --> 00:14:40,440
that he's going to
ejaculate early with a lover.

307
00:14:40,480 --> 00:14:43,040
And getting comfortable,
taking some breaths.

308
00:14:45,560 --> 00:14:47,040
Ahh...

309
00:14:48,960 --> 00:14:53,440
Aisha will monitor Will's arousal
using a scale from zero to four,

310
00:14:53,480 --> 00:14:55,400
with four being orgasm.

311
00:14:58,160 --> 00:14:59,440
So, I have a suggestion.

312
00:14:59,480 --> 00:15:02,400
We agree on, like,
two or three strokes,

313
00:15:02,440 --> 00:15:04,960
and you'll let me know as
you're moving up the scale,

314
00:15:05,000 --> 00:15:07,320
so like, "I'm a one, I'm a two,
I'm a three,

315
00:15:07,360 --> 00:15:08,600
"I'm a three-and-a-half."

316
00:15:08,640 --> 00:15:09,960
Sounds good. OK.

317
00:15:10,000 --> 00:15:11,840
I'm going to come on the table

318
00:15:11,880 --> 00:15:15,520
and I'm going to move
this leg over me, OK,

319
00:15:15,560 --> 00:15:16,920
and now this one.

320
00:15:16,960 --> 00:15:19,720
I'm just going to
shift myself forward.

321
00:15:19,760 --> 00:15:21,920
OK, great. OK.

322
00:15:21,960 --> 00:15:23,160
HE CHUCKLES

323
00:15:23,200 --> 00:15:25,480
So, taking a breath.

324
00:15:33,240 --> 00:15:34,560
Ohh...

325
00:15:34,600 --> 00:15:35,600
Two.

326
00:15:39,920 --> 00:15:41,760
Yeah, we're still at a two.

327
00:15:41,800 --> 00:15:44,560
Before long,
things start to escalate.

328
00:15:44,600 --> 00:15:47,040
HE EXHALES
Yeah, I'm climbing, I'm climbing.

329
00:15:47,080 --> 00:15:49,680
OK, so keep breathing.

330
00:15:49,720 --> 00:15:52,400
Oh, shit. Take a breath. Breathe.

331
00:15:52,440 --> 00:15:54,080
HE INHALES

332
00:15:55,760 --> 00:15:57,240
THEY EXHALE

333
00:15:57,280 --> 00:15:58,760
And just keep breathing. Breathe in.

334
00:16:02,040 --> 00:16:03,680
And now, this third time,
you're gonna breathe in,

335
00:16:03,720 --> 00:16:05,520
you're gonna hold, and you're
gonna tense everything.

336
00:16:08,040 --> 00:16:10,760
And tense, tense,
tense, tense, tense,

337
00:16:10,800 --> 00:16:13,400
tense, tense, tense, tense, tense.

338
00:16:13,440 --> 00:16:17,040
And hold it for as long as
you can, Will. Hold. Tense.

339
00:16:17,080 --> 00:16:19,160
And then, when you're ready,
you can relax.

340
00:16:21,560 --> 00:16:23,120
THEY EXHALE

341
00:16:23,160 --> 00:16:25,240
Yeah, I didn't come.
Yeah, I beat it! Woo!

342
00:16:25,280 --> 00:16:27,960
Woo! Come on! Thank you. High five!

343
00:16:28,000 --> 00:16:29,680
Yes! I was so close as well.

344
00:16:29,720 --> 00:16:31,040
I was like, "Ah, shit."

345
00:16:33,000 --> 00:16:34,280
I'm really aware of, like,

346
00:16:34,320 --> 00:16:37,120
how close I was at the start,
like, nervous-wise,

347
00:16:37,160 --> 00:16:38,480
but Aisha's amazing.

348
00:16:38,520 --> 00:16:40,600
I really feel like that treatment
is kind of what I need

349
00:16:40,640 --> 00:16:42,080
before I do anything else,

350
00:16:42,120 --> 00:16:44,920
so I feel confident about now,
like, moving forward.

351
00:16:47,840 --> 00:16:49,840
You're walking back with,
like, a swagger.

352
00:16:49,880 --> 00:16:51,560
You ARE walking back
with swagger. Yeah.

353
00:16:51,600 --> 00:16:53,360
Will didn't come,
which was the objective.

354
00:16:53,400 --> 00:16:54,880
CHEERING

355
00:16:54,920 --> 00:16:56,640
Thank you, thank you. Well done.

356
00:16:56,680 --> 00:16:59,200
Yeah, just, like, getting to the
point where I think I'm gonna come

357
00:16:59,240 --> 00:17:00,440
and then, like, kind of stopping,

358
00:17:00,480 --> 00:17:02,560
like, breathe, breath-work
and, like...

359
00:17:02,600 --> 00:17:04,360
Oh, right. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

360
00:17:04,400 --> 00:17:05,800
But, yeah, progress.

361
00:17:05,840 --> 00:17:07,760
Let's go! Thank you.

362
00:17:10,440 --> 00:17:13,040
Will's not the only
one making progress.

363
00:17:13,080 --> 00:17:16,560
Would you say the
goals are being met?

364
00:17:16,600 --> 00:17:17,600
Yeah.

365
00:17:17,640 --> 00:17:20,680
As part of the surrogate
partner therapy programme,

366
00:17:20,720 --> 00:17:24,080
clinical therapist Abby checks
in with some of the group.

367
00:17:25,120 --> 00:17:27,760
What does a good ending
look like to you?

368
00:17:27,800 --> 00:17:29,040
Erm...

369
00:17:29,080 --> 00:17:33,000
Giving and receiving,
like, pleasure and orgasm.

370
00:17:33,040 --> 00:17:34,440
OK. Good.

371
00:17:34,480 --> 00:17:35,680
Yeah. Good!

372
00:17:36,880 --> 00:17:40,960
Meanwhile, Marianne is with
Andre, challenging herself...

373
00:17:41,000 --> 00:17:45,640
This is an invitation if we wanted
to potentially de-robe some clothing

374
00:17:45,680 --> 00:17:47,160
to your comfort level.

375
00:17:47,200 --> 00:17:49,640
...to overcome her
trust issues with men.

376
00:17:49,680 --> 00:17:51,800
I'm happy to go to,
like, my underwear.

377
00:17:52,800 --> 00:17:54,840
Marianne is doing extremely well,

378
00:17:54,880 --> 00:17:58,200
connecting and building
emotional intimacy with Andre.

379
00:17:58,240 --> 00:17:59,560
Breathe in.

380
00:17:59,600 --> 00:18:02,960
Taking things slow is
definitely the right way for her

381
00:18:03,000 --> 00:18:04,880
to move through this work.

382
00:18:04,920 --> 00:18:06,840
Hold.

383
00:18:06,880 --> 00:18:08,320
Breathe out.

384
00:18:08,360 --> 00:18:11,320
Each time, I'm trying to push
myself just a little bit further,

385
00:18:11,360 --> 00:18:15,600
so I'm feeling very content with
that, and I'm excited to know more.

386
00:18:16,680 --> 00:18:19,560
All right, ready? Yep.
You can undress with me. Yes. OK.

387
00:18:19,600 --> 00:18:22,960
Having proved he can get
and maintain an erection...

388
00:18:23,000 --> 00:18:25,000
Let's do some bossy touch.
How do you feel about that?

389
00:18:25,040 --> 00:18:26,520
Yeah, comfortable. OK.

390
00:18:26,560 --> 00:18:28,400
Take the tips of your fingers

391
00:18:28,440 --> 00:18:31,000
and run them on the
tops of my thighs.

392
00:18:31,040 --> 00:18:35,040
...Alex is moving along in surrogate
partner therapy with Risdon.

393
00:18:35,080 --> 00:18:37,120
Mm-hm. That's nice.

394
00:18:37,160 --> 00:18:40,680
Alex is one that can
get caught in his mind...

395
00:18:40,720 --> 00:18:42,760
Touch my face,
starting at the forehead,

396
00:18:42,800 --> 00:18:45,080
and then caressing
your way down slowly.

397
00:18:45,120 --> 00:18:48,840
...but he definitely can
work through a lot of that.

398
00:18:48,880 --> 00:18:50,200
It's sexy when you're bossy.

399
00:18:50,240 --> 00:18:51,360
OK.

400
00:18:51,400 --> 00:18:52,400
How are you feeling?

401
00:18:52,440 --> 00:18:55,840
Good. I feel confident
and no pressure on,

402
00:18:55,880 --> 00:18:57,320
like, thinking I have
to get an erection

403
00:18:57,360 --> 00:18:58,600
cos I need to practise
getting an erection.

404
00:18:58,640 --> 00:19:01,000
Oh, yeah. Great. Great.

405
00:19:06,880 --> 00:19:08,240
MUFFLED: Do you want a kiss?

406
00:19:09,360 --> 00:19:10,680
LAUGHTER

407
00:19:10,720 --> 00:19:15,000
It's late afternoon and the group
are embracing the Play Time theme.

408
00:19:15,040 --> 00:19:18,000
It doesn't feel that sharp.
It feels quite... nice, really, yeah.

409
00:19:18,040 --> 00:19:20,280
See, I would just use this
as a pizza wheel, couldn't you?

410
00:19:20,320 --> 00:19:21,440
LAUGHTER

411
00:19:21,480 --> 00:19:24,200
But when it comes
to playing games...

412
00:19:24,240 --> 00:19:27,040
Let's go with D7.

413
00:19:28,040 --> 00:19:29,080
Hit.

414
00:19:29,120 --> 00:19:31,360
...not everyone is in the same boat.

415
00:19:31,400 --> 00:19:32,720
D8.

416
00:19:32,760 --> 00:19:33,760
Hit.

417
00:19:33,800 --> 00:19:35,600
D9. Hit.

418
00:19:35,640 --> 00:19:37,280
And let's finish up with D10.

419
00:19:37,320 --> 00:19:39,320
Hit. You have sunk my battleship.

420
00:19:39,360 --> 00:19:40,360
Cool.

421
00:19:42,000 --> 00:19:43,280
Let's talk about Ed.

422
00:19:43,320 --> 00:19:48,240
Today at the workshop, his curiosity
came out and I think this phase

423
00:19:48,280 --> 00:19:51,880
is really hitting his
desires and interests.

424
00:19:51,920 --> 00:19:55,440
Yeah, he was very engaged
in the workshop,

425
00:19:55,480 --> 00:19:58,720
so when I see him today, I think
we're going to start getting more

426
00:19:58,760 --> 00:20:01,560
comfortable sharing his
fantasies and desires,

427
00:20:01,600 --> 00:20:03,120
and find some confidence.

428
00:20:05,440 --> 00:20:07,840
Hello. Hi, Ed.
Lovely to see you again.

429
00:20:07,880 --> 00:20:09,120
Are we hugging? Can do.

430
00:20:09,160 --> 00:20:11,000
OK, come here.

431
00:20:11,040 --> 00:20:13,240
Life for me, growing up,
wasn't easy.

432
00:20:13,280 --> 00:20:16,160
Being bullied made me lose
a lot of my confidence.

433
00:20:16,200 --> 00:20:20,880
I've worked on it, but it doesn't
take much to knock me back down.

434
00:20:20,920 --> 00:20:22,240
Just lay down, sweetie.

435
00:20:23,760 --> 00:20:25,360
Yeah, that's good.

436
00:20:25,400 --> 00:20:27,800
It's just led to me
having an attitude of,

437
00:20:27,840 --> 00:20:31,400
"Why bother? I'm going to fail,
I can't do this,"

438
00:20:31,440 --> 00:20:35,560
which isn't a great attitude to have
for a lot of things, especially sex.

439
00:20:36,560 --> 00:20:39,200
How does this feel?
It feels nice. Yeah?

440
00:20:39,240 --> 00:20:41,560
After a moment of connection,

441
00:20:41,600 --> 00:20:44,520
Shelby begins exploring
Ed's submissive side.

442
00:20:46,160 --> 00:20:50,160
I think you get turned on by
being humiliated a little bit.

443
00:20:50,200 --> 00:20:53,520
Yeah. Yeah. It's probably cos I
was bullied quite a lot at school.

444
00:20:53,560 --> 00:20:56,800
Oh, OK. So that was kind of,
like, what I was used to. Yeah.

445
00:20:56,840 --> 00:20:59,240
Sometimes that source of pain

446
00:20:59,280 --> 00:21:01,240
that we experience,

447
00:21:01,280 --> 00:21:04,000
we can kind of reclaim it.

448
00:21:04,040 --> 00:21:06,920
I have some good ideas
for you, I think. OK.

449
00:21:08,120 --> 00:21:10,080
Shelby's methods
are based on studies

450
00:21:10,120 --> 00:21:14,120
that identify how people
respond to being humiliated.

451
00:21:14,160 --> 00:21:15,200
Get on your knees.

452
00:21:15,240 --> 00:21:17,360
They might be extreme
in the outside world,

453
00:21:17,400 --> 00:21:20,520
but, in a supportive
environment, can get results.

454
00:21:20,560 --> 00:21:23,240
One of the reasons
people might crave being

455
00:21:23,280 --> 00:21:26,160
humiliated is if you
have a bad emotional

456
00:21:26,200 --> 00:21:29,280
or psychological experience
at a formative age,

457
00:21:29,320 --> 00:21:32,920
as an adult, you might want
to make it work for you

458
00:21:32,960 --> 00:21:35,960
to feel confident
and empowered and safe.

459
00:21:36,000 --> 00:21:38,480
The communication and
trust and safety

460
00:21:38,520 --> 00:21:41,360
is what allows someone
to fully surrender.

461
00:21:41,400 --> 00:21:42,480
Crawl forward.

462
00:21:44,920 --> 00:21:45,920
Stop.

463
00:21:45,960 --> 00:21:47,640
{\an8}Put your head down on the ground.

464
00:21:49,960 --> 00:21:51,640
Do you want my attention?
Yes, ma'am.

465
00:21:51,680 --> 00:21:53,960
Do you deserve my attention?
No, ma'am.

466
00:21:54,000 --> 00:21:56,680
That's right. You have to earn it.

467
00:21:56,720 --> 00:21:58,680
So be good.

468
00:21:58,720 --> 00:21:59,760
Crawl back to me.

469
00:22:01,560 --> 00:22:05,000
Throughout the session, Shelby
will use a traffic light system

470
00:22:05,040 --> 00:22:08,040
to ensure Ed remains in
control of what's happening.

471
00:22:08,080 --> 00:22:09,360
Tell me your colour.

472
00:22:09,400 --> 00:22:10,400
Green.

473
00:22:14,320 --> 00:22:15,920
A footstool.

474
00:22:15,960 --> 00:22:17,840
That might be...

475
00:22:17,880 --> 00:22:20,080
...an acceptable use for you.

476
00:22:20,120 --> 00:22:23,360
I think it's going to be difficult
for you to fuck this up.

477
00:22:23,400 --> 00:22:25,120
What do you think?

478
00:22:25,160 --> 00:22:26,160
Yes, ma'am.

479
00:22:26,200 --> 00:22:28,280
Yes? You think you're
a good footstool?

480
00:22:28,320 --> 00:22:29,360
Yes, ma'am.

481
00:22:29,400 --> 00:22:30,880
SHE SIGHS

482
00:22:33,760 --> 00:22:35,120
Are you enjoying this?

483
00:22:35,160 --> 00:22:36,160
Yes, ma'am.

484
00:22:37,240 --> 00:22:38,520
You bad, bad boy.

485
00:22:39,640 --> 00:22:43,240
By associating insults
with play rather than pain,

486
00:22:43,280 --> 00:22:46,800
Shelby hopes to help Ed
reframe his past trauma.

487
00:22:46,840 --> 00:22:49,160
Why don't you roll around on the
ground for me a little bit more?

488
00:22:54,040 --> 00:22:56,920
SHE LAUGHS

489
00:22:56,960 --> 00:22:58,640
You look ridiculous!

490
00:22:58,680 --> 00:23:00,360
Come on, give me some enthusiasm!

491
00:23:00,400 --> 00:23:01,880
You can't just roll back and forth.

492
00:23:01,920 --> 00:23:04,200
Roll all over. Come on.

493
00:23:09,800 --> 00:23:11,240
All right, stop, stop.

494
00:23:12,280 --> 00:23:13,600
Tell me your colour.

495
00:23:13,640 --> 00:23:14,720
Green.

496
00:23:14,760 --> 00:23:15,840
SHE SIGHS

497
00:23:18,280 --> 00:23:19,960
It was really fun.

498
00:23:20,000 --> 00:23:21,960
I think it was really
helpful as well

499
00:23:22,000 --> 00:23:24,920
because I think finding something
you really do connect with

500
00:23:24,960 --> 00:23:26,800
in these therapies, I think, is...

501
00:23:26,840 --> 00:23:29,600
...is a big thing for your
personal development.

502
00:23:31,760 --> 00:23:33,280
Hey, Ed. How was your one-to-one?

503
00:23:33,320 --> 00:23:35,800
It was so much fun. Yeah.

504
00:23:35,840 --> 00:23:37,960
But I just feel... weird.

505
00:23:39,040 --> 00:23:40,080
Weird good? In what way?

506
00:23:40,120 --> 00:23:42,520
Yeah, weird good. Erm...

507
00:23:42,560 --> 00:23:44,280
Kind of like when
I have a little cry.

508
00:23:44,320 --> 00:23:47,120
Aww. Yeah, man.
We had a cuddle. It was really nice.

509
00:23:47,160 --> 00:23:49,120
Cos it's been so long since
I've cuddled with someone,

510
00:23:49,160 --> 00:23:51,720
I forgot how much I liked that,
but it was really nice.

511
00:24:00,760 --> 00:24:01,760
Good morning.

512
00:24:01,800 --> 00:24:03,920
Are you ready for more Play Time?

513
00:24:03,960 --> 00:24:05,680
Oh, so ready.

514
00:24:05,720 --> 00:24:08,800
It's day two of the Play Time
Phase at the retreat,

515
00:24:08,840 --> 00:24:12,160
and Ed is reflecting on
his session with Shelby.

516
00:24:12,200 --> 00:24:14,640
Yesterday was, like,
a big high... Yeah.

517
00:24:14,680 --> 00:24:16,720
...as you could probably
all tell. Yeah.

518
00:24:16,760 --> 00:24:19,800
See, I woke up and I was like,
"I'm sad now."

519
00:24:19,840 --> 00:24:23,200
Mmm. Any specific reason
why you're feeling sad?

520
00:24:23,240 --> 00:24:25,800
I remembered I really
like cuddling and stuff,

521
00:24:25,840 --> 00:24:28,800
and it's been so long,
and I'd kind of forgotten, like...

522
00:24:28,840 --> 00:24:32,320
I'll cuddle you. We'll cuddle you.
Now I'm, like, I want it every day.

523
00:24:32,360 --> 00:24:33,520
Aww.

524
00:24:33,560 --> 00:24:36,840
I feel like I'm missing out on just
a big part of life's experience.

525
00:24:36,880 --> 00:24:38,440
OK, I get you.

526
00:24:38,480 --> 00:24:39,920
I'm so aching.

527
00:24:39,960 --> 00:24:42,200
I'm not going up
to be spanked again.

528
00:24:42,240 --> 00:24:43,680
My arse, honestly.

529
00:24:43,720 --> 00:24:44,760
More for me!

530
00:24:44,800 --> 00:24:46,280
LAUGHTER

531
00:24:48,120 --> 00:24:49,480
Millie is in luck -

532
00:24:49,520 --> 00:24:53,000
the only spanking today will
be in their imagination.

533
00:24:53,040 --> 00:24:54,720
Hello.

534
00:24:54,760 --> 00:24:57,200
Hello. Oh, no, I'm back.

535
00:24:57,240 --> 00:25:00,040
I'm here to give you a
little homework assignment.

536
00:25:02,400 --> 00:25:05,920
What we would like you to
do is to take some of

537
00:25:05,960 --> 00:25:11,400
your erotic fantasies and
turn them into short stories.

538
00:25:11,440 --> 00:25:12,760
LAUGHTER

539
00:25:12,800 --> 00:25:14,320
Yeah!

540
00:25:14,360 --> 00:25:18,520
OK, I'm seeing some enthusiasm,
there's some hiding...

541
00:25:19,600 --> 00:25:24,200
This is a practice of leaning
into your fantasies more.

542
00:25:24,240 --> 00:25:27,120
Be explicit. Be graphic.

543
00:25:27,160 --> 00:25:28,840
You can do this.

544
00:25:31,000 --> 00:25:32,240
You've gone bright red!

545
00:25:32,280 --> 00:25:33,640
LAUGHTER

546
00:25:35,040 --> 00:25:36,920
Well, have fun.

547
00:25:36,960 --> 00:25:38,200
Heh-heh-heh...

548
00:25:38,240 --> 00:25:40,360
Even the thought is
making you go gremlin.

549
00:25:40,400 --> 00:25:43,640
Yeah! Erm, OK,
I'm gonna go somewhere else

550
00:25:43,680 --> 00:25:46,880
because Callum's giggling
is not part of my fantasy!

551
00:25:46,920 --> 00:25:48,520
LAUGHTER

552
00:25:48,560 --> 00:25:49,960
Don't worry, Callum,
it's part of mine.

553
00:25:51,840 --> 00:25:55,840
The group's homework has set
their creative juices flowing.

554
00:25:55,880 --> 00:25:58,800
Is that sex position called a 69?

555
00:25:58,840 --> 00:26:00,960
Yeah, there is a sex
position called the 69,

556
00:26:01,000 --> 00:26:02,000
but I don't know which one you mean.

557
00:26:02,040 --> 00:26:04,880
Yeah, the 69 is you're both giving
each other oral, basically,

558
00:26:04,920 --> 00:26:06,440
at the same time. Yeah.

559
00:26:06,480 --> 00:26:07,880
Can two women do that?

560
00:26:07,920 --> 00:26:09,040
Absolutely.

561
00:26:10,120 --> 00:26:13,000
But not everyone is
comfortable with the exercise,

562
00:26:13,040 --> 00:26:16,840
as Bertie's erotic
story-writing hits the rocks.

563
00:26:16,880 --> 00:26:17,880
HE SIGHS

564
00:26:19,000 --> 00:26:25,320
I hate every single
aspect of this exercise.

565
00:26:25,360 --> 00:26:29,000
I am not an erotic person
in the slightest.

566
00:26:29,040 --> 00:26:31,760
I mean, just listen -
this is not a voice

567
00:26:31,800 --> 00:26:33,720
you want to hear in the bedroom!

568
00:26:35,400 --> 00:26:36,400
HE EXHALES

569
00:26:38,160 --> 00:26:40,720
While Bertie struggles
with writer's block,

570
00:26:40,760 --> 00:26:44,640
the exercise is causing
other concerns for Tegan.

571
00:26:44,680 --> 00:26:45,720
Do you know what it is, right?

572
00:26:45,760 --> 00:26:47,840
I want to have sex with people,

573
00:26:47,880 --> 00:26:50,480
but I don't want
to underwhelm anyone.

574
00:26:50,520 --> 00:26:52,080
Just practise, Tegan. Mm-hm.

575
00:26:52,120 --> 00:26:53,360
Practice makes perfect.

576
00:26:53,400 --> 00:26:56,600
Mm-hm. You're not going to be
good the first time, are ya?

577
00:26:56,640 --> 00:26:58,320
In a previous session...

578
00:26:58,360 --> 00:27:01,720
See if you can see my
vaginal opening. Mm-hm.

579
00:27:01,760 --> 00:27:05,400
...Tegan touched another woman's
genitals for the first time.

580
00:27:05,440 --> 00:27:07,680
SHE GIGGLES
Mm-hm.

581
00:27:08,760 --> 00:27:11,400
Now they've established
a high level of trust,

582
00:27:11,440 --> 00:27:16,240
Risdon aims to help Tegan explore
a new kind of pleasure through play.

583
00:27:16,280 --> 00:27:17,280
Hi.

584
00:27:18,640 --> 00:27:22,960
I don't know how I would
fare in a sexual encounter.

585
00:27:23,000 --> 00:27:25,200
I read erotica and smut.

586
00:27:25,240 --> 00:27:28,240
I've seen TV shows.
I've seen people having sex.

587
00:27:28,280 --> 00:27:30,880
I think, like, logistically,
I would know what to do,

588
00:27:30,920 --> 00:27:34,840
but to actually be able to do it
is a whole nother thing entirely.

589
00:27:36,240 --> 00:27:39,720
I was thinking, we'll go over
the mechanics of topping.

590
00:27:39,760 --> 00:27:42,560
Yep. All right, cool.
I'm going to take this off.

591
00:27:42,600 --> 00:27:46,920
I want to show you some
harnesses and things.

592
00:27:46,960 --> 00:27:49,720
Cool. And so it'll be good
for me to have pants on.

593
00:27:50,840 --> 00:27:54,000
{\an8}Tegan came onto the island very
clear that she did not want to

594
00:27:54,040 --> 00:27:57,960
{\an8}receive vaginal penetration,
which, culturally,

595
00:27:58,000 --> 00:28:00,400
we would call that
somebody who is a top

596
00:28:00,440 --> 00:28:03,160
versus a bottom in lesbian dynamics,

597
00:28:03,200 --> 00:28:07,160
so it's important for me to
normalise the use of sex toys

598
00:28:07,200 --> 00:28:08,560
with Tegan pretty early on

599
00:28:08,600 --> 00:28:12,480
because it's a common
practice in lesbian sex.

600
00:28:12,520 --> 00:28:14,200
It's the one we got for you.

601
00:28:14,240 --> 00:28:15,840
Cool. Pick which one.

602
00:28:16,960 --> 00:28:19,480
The big boy?
It's closer to me. OK.

603
00:28:19,520 --> 00:28:21,080
All right, so let's see you...

604
00:28:24,720 --> 00:28:27,080
I'll pick the ring first and
be like, "What's going to fit?"

605
00:28:27,120 --> 00:28:29,400
And whatever fits, I want,
like, a tiny bit of room,

606
00:28:29,440 --> 00:28:31,200
so I can put the straps in still.

607
00:28:32,360 --> 00:28:34,080
Through here? Mm-hm.

608
00:28:34,120 --> 00:28:37,240
Lovely. Mm-hm. All right. Now,
try putting it on and see. Cool.

609
00:28:41,360 --> 00:28:42,960
All right, let's try this.

610
00:28:49,240 --> 00:28:51,720
How's that? Yeah, good. Yeah?
OK, all right.

611
00:28:51,760 --> 00:28:54,400
LAUGHS: I'm just gonna
twist it around for you.

612
00:28:54,440 --> 00:28:55,600
Just twist my dick.

613
00:28:55,640 --> 00:28:57,960
LAUGHTER

614
00:28:58,000 --> 00:28:59,120
Ahh...

615
00:28:59,160 --> 00:29:03,560
OK, so we're gonna do some
thrusting mechanics.

616
00:29:03,600 --> 00:29:06,320
I'm getting to the stage where
I'm old enough now that I'm like,

617
00:29:06,360 --> 00:29:10,440
"I want to be wifed up,"
as my friends would put it,

618
00:29:10,480 --> 00:29:15,040
and I feel like I just
need a helping hand -

619
00:29:15,080 --> 00:29:19,200
maybe physically, maybe not -
to help me lose my virginity,

620
00:29:19,240 --> 00:29:21,600
which is all I want, really.

621
00:29:21,640 --> 00:29:23,080
Hit my hand with the dick.

622
00:29:23,120 --> 00:29:24,160
SNIGGERING

623
00:29:25,520 --> 00:29:28,800
Sorry, that's the funniest
thing I've ever heard.

624
00:29:28,840 --> 00:29:31,600
So what I'm seeing you do is
you're kind of this... Yeah.

625
00:29:31,640 --> 00:29:33,240
...and what I want you to do instead,

626
00:29:33,280 --> 00:29:36,400
so there's not this, but this. OK.

627
00:29:36,440 --> 00:29:38,520
So more with the pelvis?

628
00:29:38,560 --> 00:29:40,600
Yeah, that's much better.

629
00:29:40,640 --> 00:29:42,360
Kind of, like, clench your butt
at the top a little bit.

630
00:29:42,400 --> 00:29:43,840
Yeah. That'll give
you more power. Mm-hm.

631
00:29:46,280 --> 00:29:47,400
Good job.

632
00:29:47,440 --> 00:29:49,240
Having grasped the basics,

633
00:29:49,280 --> 00:29:52,240
Risdon wants to see if Tegan
can master thrusting

634
00:29:52,280 --> 00:29:54,840
in different positions.

635
00:29:54,880 --> 00:29:55,880
Great.

636
00:29:55,920 --> 00:29:58,120
TEGAN BREATHES HEAVILY

637
00:29:58,160 --> 00:30:00,320
Yeah, great.

638
00:30:00,360 --> 00:30:03,280
This position seems like the one
that is most natural to your body.

639
00:30:03,320 --> 00:30:06,280
Yeah, I think it is.
OK, cool. That's good, that's good.

640
00:30:06,320 --> 00:30:07,880
All right. What'd you think of that?

641
00:30:07,920 --> 00:30:09,600
Yeah, great educational talk.

642
00:30:12,240 --> 00:30:13,400
It's good. Yeah?

643
00:30:13,440 --> 00:30:16,040
I feel, like, so far ahead of
where I thought I would be

644
00:30:16,080 --> 00:30:18,480
at this stage, so... Yeah.
Thank you.

645
00:30:20,160 --> 00:30:21,520
All right, I'll see you soon.
Yeah, definitely.

646
00:30:21,560 --> 00:30:23,000
Take care. Bye. Thank you. Bye.

647
00:30:24,360 --> 00:30:27,000
No-one's ever taught me
those kind of skills,

648
00:30:27,040 --> 00:30:28,520
so that was very new.

649
00:30:28,560 --> 00:30:33,000
It's very educational and I feel
closer to losing my virginity.

650
00:30:33,040 --> 00:30:35,280
I'm just gonna sit like
this now for a while.

651
00:30:35,320 --> 00:30:37,880
Tegan, put your willy away!

652
00:30:37,920 --> 00:30:39,480
Please don't. Oh, God.

653
00:30:39,520 --> 00:30:40,920
I don't know where to look.

654
00:30:40,960 --> 00:30:43,080
Ellen, come feel it! No!

655
00:30:43,120 --> 00:30:44,320
No, seriously.

656
00:30:44,360 --> 00:30:46,240
Oh, I don't know if I want to.

657
00:30:47,400 --> 00:30:49,080
Keep tugging like that, baby!

658
00:30:49,120 --> 00:30:51,640
Is that, like, what
a real one feels like?

659
00:30:51,680 --> 00:30:53,880
I was literally about to say, "Is
this what a real one feels like?"

660
00:30:53,920 --> 00:30:55,360
Yeah. Ed, can you come and...?

661
00:30:58,160 --> 00:30:59,800
Wow, wow, wow!

662
00:30:59,840 --> 00:31:00,840
{\an8}OK, I'm ready.

663
00:31:00,880 --> 00:31:01,880
{\an8}I'm joking.

664
00:31:01,920 --> 00:31:02,960
LAUGHTER

665
00:31:04,640 --> 00:31:06,400
While Tegan is on a high,

666
00:31:06,440 --> 00:31:09,120
on the other side of the island,

667
00:31:09,160 --> 00:31:13,160
Bertie has hit a creative low
writing his erotic story.

668
00:31:13,200 --> 00:31:14,280
Hello, Bertie.

669
00:31:16,040 --> 00:31:19,400
Hello. Surprise. Appeared out
of nowhere. I know. Hello.

670
00:31:19,440 --> 00:31:22,960
So, I heard that you're having
a little trouble with your story.

671
00:31:23,000 --> 00:31:25,480
I've been having a bit of trouble

672
00:31:25,520 --> 00:31:28,240
with the vast
majority of this phase.

673
00:31:28,280 --> 00:31:34,000
OK! I'm not an erotic
person in the slightest.

674
00:31:34,040 --> 00:31:38,840
Can you think of anything that might
be interesting to you that is real?

675
00:31:38,880 --> 00:31:44,760
The thing is, there's nothing
real about my love life

676
00:31:44,800 --> 00:31:47,800
cos I've never been on any,
like, proper dates before...

677
00:31:47,840 --> 00:31:52,080
That doesn't matter. Your thoughts
are real inside your head.

678
00:31:52,120 --> 00:31:53,640
What do you think about?

679
00:31:57,000 --> 00:31:59,920
I'm not... I don't...
I'm not saying it like this.

680
00:31:59,960 --> 00:32:01,520
I'm not...

681
00:32:01,560 --> 00:32:03,560
You are missing an
opportunity for growth,

682
00:32:03,600 --> 00:32:04,960
and I know that's why you're here.

683
00:32:05,000 --> 00:32:06,040
Yeah, I get that.

684
00:32:06,080 --> 00:32:07,560
You don't have to show me anything,

685
00:32:07,600 --> 00:32:11,160
but if you're thinking of them
right now, write them down, OK?

686
00:32:11,200 --> 00:32:14,560
All right. I'm just gonna look
over here, enjoy the scenery.

687
00:32:14,600 --> 00:32:16,520
OK. Tell me when I can turn around.

688
00:32:16,560 --> 00:32:17,960
Ah...

689
00:32:18,000 --> 00:32:21,080
VO: When it comes to
whenever I have sex,

690
00:32:21,120 --> 00:32:24,080
it would probably be
the most basic thing ever.

691
00:32:24,120 --> 00:32:25,600
It'll be boring and basic...

692
00:32:25,640 --> 00:32:26,640
HE CHUCKLES

693
00:32:26,680 --> 00:32:29,280
...but, er, that's the thing
I need to improve on.

694
00:32:29,320 --> 00:32:32,960
I just want to be more
confident in that.

695
00:32:36,160 --> 00:32:40,080
That's the sound of my book closing.
All right. Good job! You did it.

696
00:32:40,120 --> 00:32:43,600
Yeah. Erm... Would you like...
would you like to see it?

697
00:32:43,640 --> 00:32:47,000
OK. OK, hope you can read
my writing. OK, all right.

698
00:32:47,040 --> 00:32:49,040
This is, er, my, er...

699
00:32:55,960 --> 00:32:57,720
Oh, Bertie...

700
00:32:57,760 --> 00:32:59,080
Yeah.

701
00:32:59,120 --> 00:33:01,320
That is REALLY hot.

702
00:33:01,360 --> 00:33:03,880
I read a lot of
dirty books, Bertie...

703
00:33:05,560 --> 00:33:07,480
...and that sounds like
some of my dirty books.

704
00:33:07,520 --> 00:33:08,920
HE CHUCKLES

705
00:33:08,960 --> 00:33:11,440
Er... I don't know what
to say about that, but, er...

706
00:33:11,480 --> 00:33:17,000
Yeah. Er... That's the first time
I've shared things like that.

707
00:33:17,040 --> 00:33:19,840
What you wrote is
a cohesive fantasy,

708
00:33:19,880 --> 00:33:24,920
and it's beautiful, and it's sexy,
and that was all you had to do.

709
00:33:24,960 --> 00:33:26,680
OK. You nailed it.

710
00:33:26,720 --> 00:33:28,640
Thank you, Shelby.
No, I appreciate that.

711
00:33:29,840 --> 00:33:32,160
I've got a bit of a high
after doing that.

712
00:33:32,200 --> 00:33:36,720
I just shared something
deeply personal to a woman

713
00:33:36,760 --> 00:33:38,680
that I only saw yesterday

714
00:33:38,720 --> 00:33:42,680
and only just spoke to
about 15 minutes ago.

715
00:33:42,720 --> 00:33:44,320
This island's weird, isn't it?

716
00:33:53,760 --> 00:33:55,840
"Just as quickly as
the words left my mouth,

717
00:33:55,880 --> 00:33:57,560
"a firm spank punishes
my right cheek."

718
00:33:57,600 --> 00:33:58,600
Aaaah!

719
00:33:59,560 --> 00:34:03,320
"A gasp radiates throughout my
body and silences the forest..."

720
00:34:03,360 --> 00:34:06,200
While the girls lose
themselves in fantasy...

721
00:34:06,240 --> 00:34:10,560
It's just a safe space to
share about feelings, emotions.

722
00:34:10,600 --> 00:34:13,080
...the boys are discussing
more real-world issues

723
00:34:13,120 --> 00:34:16,280
with Andre and Jason
at a men's circle.

724
00:34:16,320 --> 00:34:21,480
I think I am almost too scared
to approach someone I like

725
00:34:21,520 --> 00:34:23,600
because of the fear of coming across

726
00:34:23,640 --> 00:34:26,440
as weird cos I don't
know what I'm doing.

727
00:34:26,480 --> 00:34:28,240
It's all a foreign language to me.

728
00:34:28,280 --> 00:34:31,720
Yeah, especially if it's someone
I've been interested in for a while

729
00:34:31,760 --> 00:34:35,480
and I'm worried of coming
across as, like, creepy...

730
00:34:35,520 --> 00:34:37,320
Yeah, same. ..or something.

731
00:34:37,360 --> 00:34:41,800
I would describe myself
as undesirable to someone.

732
00:34:41,840 --> 00:34:43,600
Average at best.

733
00:34:43,640 --> 00:34:46,400
I wouldn't have the confidence to
approach a girl in real life.

734
00:34:46,440 --> 00:34:49,040
Everyone I like, I do feel like
they're kind of out of my league

735
00:34:49,080 --> 00:34:50,960
and I'm wasting my time.

736
00:34:51,000 --> 00:34:53,920
It's something I'd really like
to work on cos it is one of

737
00:34:53,960 --> 00:34:56,760
the biggest hurdles
I have personally.

738
00:34:56,800 --> 00:34:58,280
Just give it a go.

739
00:34:58,320 --> 00:34:59,920
It could be a rejection,

740
00:34:59,960 --> 00:35:04,480
but rejection is going to
be part of all of our lives.

741
00:35:04,520 --> 00:35:06,640
Just going to, like,
get that out of the way.

742
00:35:06,680 --> 00:35:10,400
So the more you practise these
things like approaching,

743
00:35:10,440 --> 00:35:12,040
the easier it becomes.

744
00:35:12,080 --> 00:35:15,760
Coming up with the best line,
that's all the land of performance.

745
00:35:15,800 --> 00:35:18,280
And when you can actually
just be more authentic,

746
00:35:18,320 --> 00:35:20,640
which is, like, maybe more scary,

747
00:35:20,680 --> 00:35:25,160
but that is so attractive to people.

748
00:35:28,280 --> 00:35:32,280
Ed's fear of rejection is
fuelling his low self-esteem...

749
00:35:32,320 --> 00:35:33,400
Hello.

750
00:35:35,800 --> 00:35:37,760
I'm glad that we get to
spend more time together. Yes.

751
00:35:37,800 --> 00:35:38,840
Have a seat.

752
00:35:38,880 --> 00:35:42,600
...so he's visiting Shelby, who
wants to reshape his thinking

753
00:35:42,640 --> 00:35:45,800
using a technique known as
cognitive restructuring.

754
00:35:45,840 --> 00:35:48,160
What we're going to
kind of focus on today

755
00:35:48,200 --> 00:35:50,720
is changing this script, right? OK.

756
00:35:50,760 --> 00:35:55,280
It can happen for you if we
work on the real problem,

757
00:35:55,320 --> 00:35:58,520
and the real problem
is your attitude.

758
00:35:58,560 --> 00:36:01,800
You need an attitude
adjustment, right? Yeah.

759
00:36:01,840 --> 00:36:03,760
Ready to work for me? Of course.

760
00:36:06,040 --> 00:36:07,520
All right, stand up.

761
00:36:09,280 --> 00:36:14,240
Ed has a really big wall up
and he's trying not to be seen,

762
00:36:14,280 --> 00:36:18,160
which is unfortunate for him
because I can see through that wall.

763
00:36:19,560 --> 00:36:20,600
Take off your shirt.

764
00:36:26,920 --> 00:36:28,800
Give it to me.

765
00:36:28,840 --> 00:36:31,040
OK, I want you to stand
in front of the mirror.

766
00:36:33,360 --> 00:36:36,320
What kind of thoughts and feelings
are you having right now?

767
00:36:36,360 --> 00:36:39,160
I don't like my pecs. OK.

768
00:36:39,200 --> 00:36:40,920
And, like, my arms.

769
00:36:40,960 --> 00:36:44,400
I don't like my eyes,
I don't like my mouth.

770
00:36:44,440 --> 00:36:46,920
I like my beard,
but I think it's a bit weak.

771
00:36:46,960 --> 00:36:49,480
I love my hair, but sometimes
I think it doesn't suit me.

772
00:36:49,520 --> 00:36:51,200
I just feel very average.

773
00:36:51,240 --> 00:36:53,240
So you don't want to be average?

774
00:36:53,280 --> 00:36:54,760
No. What do you want?

775
00:36:54,800 --> 00:36:56,280
I want to feel good.

776
00:36:56,320 --> 00:36:58,640
You know what's the
easiest way to feel good?

777
00:37:00,480 --> 00:37:02,960
Is to stop being a
whiny little bitch.

778
00:37:03,000 --> 00:37:04,000
SHE LAUGHS

779
00:37:05,960 --> 00:37:09,680
Shelby's aim is to reflect
Ed's negativity back at him,

780
00:37:09,720 --> 00:37:13,160
helping him to challenge
and reframe his thinking.

781
00:37:13,200 --> 00:37:15,560
Tell me that you've been
a whiny little bitch.

782
00:37:15,600 --> 00:37:17,240
I've been a whiny
little bitch, mistress.

783
00:37:17,280 --> 00:37:19,440
You HAVE been a whiny little bitch.

784
00:37:19,480 --> 00:37:23,200
Do you think you might value
my opinion more than your own...

785
00:37:23,240 --> 00:37:24,360
100%.

786
00:37:24,400 --> 00:37:27,000
...when it comes to
what's desirable?

787
00:37:27,040 --> 00:37:28,040
Yeah.

788
00:37:28,080 --> 00:37:29,800
Do you want to attract me?

789
00:37:29,840 --> 00:37:32,480
Yes. Do you want to attract
other women like me?

790
00:37:32,520 --> 00:37:35,600
Yes. Then you're going to
have to listen to me. Yeah.

791
00:37:35,640 --> 00:37:40,120
So the first thing that I noticed
about you were your eyes.

792
00:37:40,160 --> 00:37:42,760
You have really beautiful eyes.

793
00:37:42,800 --> 00:37:45,880
Your beard makes you
look really masculine,

794
00:37:45,920 --> 00:37:47,680
and women love beards.

795
00:37:47,720 --> 00:37:49,760
And when I first met you
on the island,

796
00:37:49,800 --> 00:37:54,760
I didn't notice your arm
and your hand at all,

797
00:37:54,800 --> 00:37:56,640
and I thought you were handsome.

798
00:37:56,680 --> 00:37:59,320
You're too distracted,
putting yourself down,

799
00:37:59,360 --> 00:38:01,320
to put your focus out,

800
00:38:01,360 --> 00:38:04,320
and the only way you
can do that is what?

801
00:38:04,360 --> 00:38:05,520
Stop being...

802
00:38:05,560 --> 00:38:06,800
...a whiny little bitch.

803
00:38:06,840 --> 00:38:08,480
Yes! Exactly!

804
00:38:13,360 --> 00:38:15,560
Does this work? Yes, mistress.

805
00:38:15,600 --> 00:38:18,880
I can take my pleasure from
you here. This is fine.

806
00:38:20,000 --> 00:38:24,080
You do not have permission
to go backwards from here.

807
00:38:24,120 --> 00:38:25,480
No more excuses.

808
00:38:25,520 --> 00:38:27,040
Yes, mistress. Good.

809
00:38:32,160 --> 00:38:33,920
You better be thinking about me, Ed.

810
00:38:33,960 --> 00:38:37,160
Of course. Every morning,
when you look in the mirror,

811
00:38:37,200 --> 00:38:38,520
you do your work.

812
00:38:38,560 --> 00:38:39,560
Yeah.

813
00:38:44,360 --> 00:38:45,400
Thank you, Shelby.

814
00:38:47,360 --> 00:38:48,720
Feeling really good.

815
00:38:48,760 --> 00:38:52,120
She makes me want to be
the guy I want to be.

816
00:38:52,160 --> 00:38:56,000
I can say it to myself all day
and I don't believe it,

817
00:38:56,040 --> 00:39:00,280
but talking with Shelby makes me
actually want to be that guy.

818
00:39:01,600 --> 00:39:03,240
I feel more empowered.

819
00:39:03,280 --> 00:39:05,960
I just needed a session like
this to really remind me

820
00:39:06,000 --> 00:39:08,640
why I'm here and how far I've gone.

821
00:39:13,600 --> 00:39:15,480
Ed! What did you get up to?

822
00:39:16,520 --> 00:39:17,880
So, she had the mirror and got me

823
00:39:17,920 --> 00:39:19,760
to say stuff I don't
like about myself,

824
00:39:19,800 --> 00:39:21,000
and then she countered it,

825
00:39:21,040 --> 00:39:22,920
and was complimenting me and
telling me how it's bullshit,

826
00:39:22,960 --> 00:39:25,280
and I'm not going to be the
whiny little bitch any more.

827
00:39:25,320 --> 00:39:27,360
I've learned to ignore
the voice in my head.

828
00:39:27,400 --> 00:39:29,440
I mean, it'll take practice to

829
00:39:29,480 --> 00:39:31,960
feel like I'll never
listen to him again,

830
00:39:32,000 --> 00:39:34,840
but now, I feel so much
more love for myself.

831
00:39:37,880 --> 00:39:40,320
Bertie is also feeling
more love for himself

832
00:39:40,360 --> 00:39:43,560
after writing his
first erotic story.

833
00:39:43,600 --> 00:39:45,120
Hi. Hello!

834
00:39:45,160 --> 00:39:48,480
Boosted by his new-found
confidence and having established

835
00:39:48,520 --> 00:39:51,160
a strong bond with
surrogate partner, Kat,

836
00:39:51,200 --> 00:39:55,200
she feels Bertie's ready
for a radical next step.

837
00:39:55,240 --> 00:39:58,680
So, the first thing that we're
going to do is undressing.

838
00:39:58,720 --> 00:40:02,800
OK. So, basically, we're
going to just very slowly

839
00:40:02,840 --> 00:40:04,640
undress ourselves in
front of each other.

840
00:40:04,680 --> 00:40:06,120
You'll be doing this too?

841
00:40:06,160 --> 00:40:08,600
Yes, we'll be getting naked
together.

842
00:40:08,640 --> 00:40:10,440
OK. Does that feel...?

843
00:40:10,480 --> 00:40:12,280
It's a leap. It's a big leap,

844
00:40:12,320 --> 00:40:15,760
but it's a leap that I'm willing
to take, so, yeah. OK, perfect.

845
00:40:15,800 --> 00:40:17,520
All right, whenever you're ready.

846
00:40:19,560 --> 00:40:23,760
It's one big leap for Bertie, but
one small step in reaching his goal

847
00:40:23,800 --> 00:40:25,880
of losing his virginity...

848
00:40:25,920 --> 00:40:26,920
SHE EXHALES

849
00:40:26,960 --> 00:40:28,280
Good. How are you feeling?

850
00:40:28,320 --> 00:40:30,760
I did it. Erm... You did it! Yeah.

851
00:40:30,800 --> 00:40:33,240
...so Kat wants to
challenge him further.

852
00:40:33,280 --> 00:40:36,280
We're going to do a little bit
of an anatomy lesson on me.

853
00:40:36,320 --> 00:40:37,720
OK. Does that feel OK?

854
00:40:37,760 --> 00:40:41,000
That feels bold, but I'm
looking forward to it.

855
00:40:41,040 --> 00:40:44,040
I obviously know what
female genitals look like,

856
00:40:44,080 --> 00:40:47,640
but when it comes
to dealing with one,

857
00:40:47,680 --> 00:40:52,240
when, if I ever have sex,
I wouldn't know what to do.

858
00:40:52,280 --> 00:40:56,120
I'd know the different names
of the different parts,

859
00:40:56,160 --> 00:40:57,960
but I don't know where's where,

860
00:40:58,000 --> 00:41:01,920
so I wouldn't know
where to, you know...

861
00:41:01,960 --> 00:41:03,720
...aim.

862
00:41:03,760 --> 00:41:06,080
{\an8}Do you want to try to find things?

863
00:41:06,120 --> 00:41:08,840
{\an8}Yeah? Yeah... OK, so can
you point to the outer labia?

864
00:41:10,000 --> 00:41:11,000
{\an8}Erm...

865
00:41:12,240 --> 00:41:13,240
{\an8}Nope.

866
00:41:15,960 --> 00:41:17,960
{\an8}Nope. Oh, this is going to go well!

867
00:41:18,000 --> 00:41:20,800
{\an8}This is the outer labia right here.
Yeah, OK. All right.

868
00:41:20,840 --> 00:41:22,560
{\an8}And then inner labia?

869
00:41:22,600 --> 00:41:23,840
{\an8}Was it what I just pointed to?

870
00:41:23,880 --> 00:41:25,840
{\an8}Mm-hm. These. Yeah, both of those.

871
00:41:25,880 --> 00:41:27,840
{\an8}THEY CHUCKLE

872
00:41:27,880 --> 00:41:29,560
{\an8}And then the clitoris.

873
00:41:29,600 --> 00:41:31,120
{\an8}This is the hard one.

874
00:41:31,160 --> 00:41:34,840
{\an8}So, it's above the hood,
as you call it.

875
00:41:34,880 --> 00:41:36,160
{\an8}Is it here? Yeah.

876
00:41:36,200 --> 00:41:39,160
{\an8}And the hood is actually
above it, so it's there. Yeah.

877
00:41:39,200 --> 00:41:41,360
{\an8}And that's the clitoris. Yeah. Yeah.

878
00:41:41,400 --> 00:41:43,280
{\an8}Ah! Oh, sorry. No, it's OK, it's OK.

879
00:41:43,320 --> 00:41:44,320
{\an8}It's just super sensitive.

880
00:41:44,360 --> 00:41:46,120
{\an8}Oh, I... Don't worry about.

881
00:41:46,160 --> 00:41:47,760
{\an8}I was curious, that's all.

882
00:41:47,800 --> 00:41:50,000
{\an8}And then the vaginal opening?

883
00:41:50,040 --> 00:41:52,560
{\an8}It's... here? Yep.

884
00:41:55,320 --> 00:41:57,040
{\an8}And you can put your
finger inside too,

885
00:41:57,080 --> 00:41:59,200
{\an8}to just feel what it feels like.

886
00:41:59,240 --> 00:42:01,240
{\an8}You want me to put my
fingers inside, like...?

887
00:42:01,280 --> 00:42:02,600
{\an8}The vagina. Vagina.

888
00:42:02,640 --> 00:42:03,840
{\an8}Is that, like, here?

889
00:42:03,880 --> 00:42:05,560
{\an8}Yeah, the vaginal opening, yep.

890
00:42:08,800 --> 00:42:10,760
{\an8}How does that feel? Just...
HE CHUCKLES

891
00:42:12,640 --> 00:42:16,360
{\an8}And just, like, normalise
the textures for yourself. Yeah.

892
00:42:16,400 --> 00:42:17,880
{\an8}HE SNIFFS
I'm just curious!

893
00:42:17,920 --> 00:42:20,600
{\an8}It's OK. This is all for you to...

894
00:42:20,640 --> 00:42:22,920
{\an8}OK, it doesn't smell of anything.

895
00:42:22,960 --> 00:42:24,680
{\an8}Wow. Yeah.

896
00:42:32,280 --> 00:42:35,360
I just want you to really focus
on what feels good to you, yeah?

897
00:42:35,400 --> 00:42:39,600
Every single ounce
feels so good to me.

898
00:42:44,480 --> 00:42:46,240
That was great. Thank you.
Thank you very much.

899
00:42:46,280 --> 00:42:48,280
Good job.

900
00:42:48,320 --> 00:42:49,480
You too.

901
00:42:49,520 --> 00:42:51,000
SHE SIGHS

902
00:42:52,360 --> 00:42:55,120
Thank you. All right.
Have a good day. I think I will!

903
00:42:55,160 --> 00:42:56,800
HE CHUCKLES

904
00:42:56,840 --> 00:43:01,280
Even the fact of just caressing
and touching a woman's naked body

905
00:43:01,320 --> 00:43:03,640
is something that I've
been wanting for, like,

906
00:43:03,680 --> 00:43:05,440
and thinking about for so long,

907
00:43:05,480 --> 00:43:09,200
and the fact I did that
means so much to me.

908
00:43:09,240 --> 00:43:10,520
Kat's an incredible woman,

909
00:43:10,560 --> 00:43:13,560
and some of the things
that she's allowed me to do

910
00:43:13,600 --> 00:43:16,200
has been nothing
short of mind-blowing.

911
00:43:17,440 --> 00:43:19,200
Flirty Bertie.

912
00:43:19,240 --> 00:43:20,680
Did you have a one-on-one?

913
00:43:20,720 --> 00:43:25,320
I did, and I got it all off, so
that was brilliant. Oh, fantastic!

914
00:43:25,360 --> 00:43:27,080
Give me a high five, Bert.

915
00:43:27,120 --> 00:43:29,360
Fantastic. Well done. Get in.

916
00:43:29,400 --> 00:43:31,240
Well done. Are you feeling good?

917
00:43:31,280 --> 00:43:34,360
Yeah, great. Surprised I'm
able to stand up, but, er...

918
00:43:34,400 --> 00:43:35,400
LAUGHTER

919
00:43:35,440 --> 00:43:36,920
What did she do to you, my guy?!

920
00:43:40,520 --> 00:43:43,000
It's late afternoon
on Virgin Island...

921
00:43:43,040 --> 00:43:46,320
I feel like I'm gonna skip half my
story cos there's a lot of foreplay.

922
00:43:46,360 --> 00:43:49,160
Hello. Hi.

923
00:43:49,200 --> 00:43:52,840
...and time for the group to
brace themselves and reveal all.

924
00:43:54,040 --> 00:43:57,040
We cannot wait to see
your courage in coming up

925
00:43:57,080 --> 00:44:01,320
and sharing these deep
fantasies and desires with us.

926
00:44:02,440 --> 00:44:05,760
As the group read out
their erotic stories...

927
00:44:05,800 --> 00:44:08,280
"The very sight has my
pussy wet and humming.

928
00:44:08,320 --> 00:44:11,280
"A firm spank punishes
my right ass cheek."

929
00:44:11,320 --> 00:44:13,120
...it's clear that
the Play Time Phase

930
00:44:13,160 --> 00:44:15,360
has unlocked some deep desires.

931
00:44:15,400 --> 00:44:16,720
"The fair-haired vixen's hand

932
00:44:16,760 --> 00:44:18,440
"quickly plunged
below his trouser line.

933
00:44:18,480 --> 00:44:20,200
"She manoeuvred herself
on top of him,

934
00:44:20,240 --> 00:44:22,120
"striding him like a wild stallion."

935
00:44:22,160 --> 00:44:25,040
"I start touching my body
and then I hear moans,

936
00:44:25,080 --> 00:44:26,840
"moans that aren't coming from me.

937
00:44:26,880 --> 00:44:28,880
"I look in the mirror
and there she is,

938
00:44:28,920 --> 00:44:31,120
"fingering herself on
the edge of my bath.

939
00:44:31,160 --> 00:44:34,520
"They slowly move into position,
masturbating in sync,

940
00:44:34,560 --> 00:44:36,320
"followed by the 69..."

941
00:44:37,280 --> 00:44:38,560
...which I now know what it is!

942
00:44:38,600 --> 00:44:39,880
LAUGHTER

943
00:44:39,920 --> 00:44:43,720
And for some, the course appears
to be coming to a climax.

944
00:44:43,760 --> 00:44:45,120
"I moved to the bedside drawer

945
00:44:45,160 --> 00:44:47,960
"and removed a strap-on
and handcuffs..."

946
00:44:48,000 --> 00:44:49,040
WHISPERS: I knew it.

947
00:44:49,080 --> 00:44:51,400
"..and whisper in her ear,
'Are you ready to play?'

948
00:44:51,440 --> 00:44:55,040
"We shag until morning light until
both our juices have run dry."

949
00:44:55,080 --> 00:44:57,720
CHEERING
- Yeah.
- Well done, guys.

950
00:44:59,080 --> 00:45:01,760
Amazing! You did it! Yes.

951
00:45:01,800 --> 00:45:04,840
The end of the Play Time Phase.

952
00:45:04,880 --> 00:45:06,600
We're ready for closing circle.

953
00:45:08,160 --> 00:45:10,880
I think Play Time has been
my favourite phase so far.

954
00:45:10,920 --> 00:45:14,160
I'm getting to the stage where
I'm ready to lose my virginity.

955
00:45:14,200 --> 00:45:16,640
I think I learned a hell
of a lot about myself,

956
00:45:16,680 --> 00:45:18,840
and I couldn't be happier
with what I've learned.

957
00:45:18,880 --> 00:45:21,360
Deep breath in...
THEY INHALE

958
00:45:21,400 --> 00:45:22,520
...and out.

959
00:45:22,560 --> 00:45:23,760
THEY EXHALE

960
00:45:23,800 --> 00:45:26,200
I found Shelby's sessions
incredibly important.

961
00:45:26,240 --> 00:45:31,520
It's really kind of awoken
who I am to myself.

962
00:45:31,560 --> 00:45:33,800
I think my progress has
essentially skyrocketed,

963
00:45:33,840 --> 00:45:35,560
and I'm going to take the
lessons she's given me

964
00:45:35,600 --> 00:45:37,480
and keep them forever.

965
00:45:37,520 --> 00:45:38,520
Shake it out.

966
00:45:38,560 --> 00:45:41,480
ALL: Woooo!

967
00:45:41,520 --> 00:45:43,560
In this phase, a lot of big
things have happened to me

968
00:45:43,600 --> 00:45:45,640
and things that I would
never have imagined,

969
00:45:45,680 --> 00:45:47,960
but this is what this
island's all about.

970
00:45:48,000 --> 00:45:51,760
You're on the roller-coaster and, in
the immortal words of Ronan Keating,

971
00:45:51,800 --> 00:45:53,120
you've just got to ride it.

972
00:45:56,880 --> 00:45:57,960
Next time...

973
00:45:58,000 --> 00:46:00,000
Whoa, that's gonna kill someone.

974
00:46:00,040 --> 00:46:02,320
...things get more intense...

975
00:46:02,360 --> 00:46:04,240
...in the Technique Phase...

976
00:46:04,280 --> 00:46:07,600
This may be the scariest
workshop yet.

977
00:46:07,640 --> 00:46:09,360
...romance blossoms...

978
00:46:09,400 --> 00:46:10,720
Feelings are starting to happen

979
00:46:10,760 --> 00:46:13,600
and we want to make sure that
they're equipped to deal with that.

980
00:46:13,640 --> 00:46:15,520
...and someone...
MOANING

981
00:46:15,560 --> 00:46:16,760
...goes all the way.

982
00:46:16,800 --> 00:46:18,760
There were 11 virgins left. Yeah.

983
00:46:18,800 --> 00:46:19,880
LAUGHTER